No one enjoys arguing, but it happens. But surely if no one likes arguing there has to be a way to avoid conflict, right?
Let’s look at three ways that you can avoid conflict and maintain relationships with both those you hold close and people in your circle in varsity.
Listen to the Other Person
Whilst this one may seem obvious, not a lot of people actually listen. This, unsurprisingly, leads to conflict. If you’re continuously talking over the other person, or people, then they aren’t going to want to listen to you at all. They might even start talking or even shouting over you to get their own point across.
Taking the time to listen to what the other person is saying will allow you to both hear the other person’s opinion as well as being able to get your point across. Listening is one of the best ways to avoid conflict.
This is especially true in University as you will encounter a range of people, personalities and cultures. Taking the time to discover who they are and what they’re all about is an excellent way of avoiding misunderstandings and potential clashes.
Apologise, even if you don’t think you did anything wrong. Contrary to what you may believe, apologising to someone doesn’t make you appear weak. If you’ve made a mistake or upset someone, even if you didn’t intend to, then apologising can do a world of good.
An apology, even if it’s just a small “sorry”, is almost guaranteed to help you to avoid conflict in most predicaments. This simple word has an amazing way of diffusing even the angriest of people and opens the door for positive communication.
Freaking out and shouting out to get your point across has never made anything better. It’ll only escalate the situation and make matters worse such as turning a simple misunderstanding into a full-blown argument.
If you feel yourself getting wound up by a conversation and you feel the need to lash out or defend yourself, why not put the conversation on hold and take a few minutes to think about why the conversation was bothering you and how to avoid conflict before it starts.
It might not seem like it at the time, but you can do quite a bit to avoid conflict with friends, family, and fellow students.
If you just take into consideration how the other person may be feeling, dealing with issues like these should be a breeze. And who knows, maybe you’ll find that you have more in common with your potential adversary than you thought?